We had a great Men’s Event a couple of weeks ago – Every Man Needs a Wingman. I was grateful that several men from our church prioritized the meeting, and I think it was a good evening. 

In our conversation about friendship, I listed out 5 benefits of friendship. Since all of the men from MBC couldn’t make the event, and it would be a useful review for the men who did come, I will be sharing those benefits on our blog.

I should also add that Drew Hunter’s book, Made for Friendship, was beneficial to me in preparing the discussion.

The first mentioned benefit of friendship comes from a quote from the 19th-century English theologian, J.C. Ryle:

This world is full of sorrow because it is full of sin. It is a dark place. It is a Longley place. It is a disappointing place. The brightest sunbeam in it is a friend. Friendship halves our troubles and doubles our joys.

When we invest in friendships, we get double the joy and half of the sorrow because we have others to bear our sorrows with us and we can rejoice with our brothers. This aligns with the Apostle Paul’s admonition to weep with those who weep and rejoice with those who rejoice) Romans 12:15).

Some other verse that supports Ryle’s benefit of friendship:

Proverbs 12:25Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad.

Philippians 4:14Yet it was kind of you to share my trouble.

Philippians 2:2complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind.

Whose burden are you helping carry? Do you have a friend who is helping you? Who are you rejoicing with?

Godly friendships should half the sorrows
and double the joy.

2 thoughts on “Godly Friendship ~ pt. 1

  1. This has certainly been true in my life. Establishing, by God’s grace, some friendships in my early 30’s led to decades of blessings from my friends. They also said my friendship was a blessing, and they were honest men. 🙂 In any event, Glenn Franke, Timler Olander and Danny Ray Hobbs clearly were helpful in carrying sorrows and probably quadrupled my joy. Sadly, only one of the three remains. Thankfully, they will all be with me when we meet our Savior.


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